when i was 11 years old my best friend asked me if i shaved my legs yet. she was already shaving regularly, she said. but she had something i didn’t—an older sister. a sister who showed her the ropes of all things feminine and girly.
gasp! i was shamed. i felt so childish and naive compared to her. hey, at 11 years old it doesn’t take much to make a budding tween feel self-conscious and awkward. (okay, it doesn’t take much to make me feel self-conscious and awkward even now)
anyway, i spent the next few months sneaking my dad’s cheap, orange, single blade razor. i used bar soap to shave the soft, blond hairs off my legs, never asking my mom or telling her anything.
and one night when we were laying on the couch watching a movie she felt the smoothness (ha!) of my legs and asked—”are you shaving?”
i was caught.
april, 2010. still a baby
only now i think back and i can’t help but wonder why? why was i so nervous to bring it up to her? did i think she would be mad? or laugh at me? i’m not really sure what i thought. but i know my mom would have done neither of those things.
and the 32 year old me looks back at that 11 year old me and giggles.
truth is the growing up process is a tough one. (an understatement to be sure). it’s fraught with embarrassment and awkwardness and gawky bodies and bad smells and emotions and hormones…
and now i’ve come full circle—i’m the mom, and i have the 11 year old. and i realize that, while there’s a lot of parts of growing up that are all of the above, there are a lot of parts that don’t have to be--and i am determined to make shaving one of them.
april, 2011. the clock is ticking…
no sneaking dad’s razor and a bar of soap for my oldest.
shaving is a rite of passage, and should be treated that way.
so when i was given the opportunity to try out Venus Embrace and Satin Care Passionista Fruit shave gel with guinevere i jumped on it.
but i was unsure how to get into it…rehearsing what i would say to her like i was calling a boy for the first time. finally i just jumped in with both feet. i asked her if anyone in her class was shaving, and did she want to?
she’s so nonchalant this daughter of mine. “sure.” but that was all it took.
it was mommy-daughter time--sitting on the edge of the tub, teaching my oldest daughter how to shave her legs… and let’s face it—of all the “talks” we need to have with our daughters—”do you want to shave?” is by far not the most difficult. but it was important to me that i was the one to share that moment with her.
with three younger sisters behind her, i feel like guinevere and i are testing the waters and setting precedents for future “growing up” experiences. having fun products to use just makes it that much more special.
the Venus Embrace razor has ribbons of moisture surrounding the actual blades (all five of them), so it feels very, very safe for a new shaver. it gives a close, smooth shave with very little chance of nicks or cuts.
the Satin Care Passionista Fruit shave gel smells divine. it’s fun and fruity and leaves your legs smooth and smelling wonderful. and both guinevere and i have sensitive skin, but we were fine with this product. (seriously—i can’t even tell you how good it smells. i wish i had a scratch and sniff blog so you could get a whiff)
april, 2012. i can see the woman she’s becoming
so in the end i find myself back where i started. except this time instead of sneaking dad’s razors, i’m sneaking my daughter’s Venus Embrace and Satin Care Passionista Fruit shave gel.
i just love that this stuff helped me make at least this one rite of passage not a painful one!
now if only Venus could come up with something to help the first time she gets her heart broken?
what about you? from first bath to first day of school to first time behind the wheel it seems we go from one “first” to another with our little ones from the day they’re born—some easier than others!
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Lovely post - the first time I shaved was on a morning when the family was rushing to get out the door and I took my sweet time in the bath!
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I remember when my daughter asked me the first time to shave her legs. I know I was very supportive, and I showed her to do it the right way.
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This is a nice special bonding time. You are such a good mom! I didn't do these these things with my mom. I had an older sister. I remember my older sister let me practice on her legs before I did my own (thinking back, wow that was brave of her)!
ReplyDeleteI remember my Mom helped me a lot when I just started shaving. She got me my first Venus razor and showed how to use it
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OMG thank you so much for this post! My daughter turns 11 in July and she's already been dogging me to start shaving. She has arabic background and has very hairy (albeit blonde) hair on her legs. But she's anxious to shave and "be like the other girls" at school. I do remember when I was first shaving that I wondered (quietly) why my mother's arms were so smooth, so one day, I tested the shaver on my arm - wrong idea! That hair of course came back darker and coarser! Never again did I take the razor to my arms..... Thanks again! Jennifer
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just be straight-forward, honest, and keep a sense of humor when talking with your kids
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My daughter is only 4, but I keep my explanations simple and always remind her how pretty and smart she is!
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My oldest is not yet five, but I completely botched our first "stranger danger" conversation because he caught me off guard. ("If a bad person takes me to their house, how would I get away?" he asked, and I was too busy thinking, "Where the heck did he even get that idea?!" to respond appropriately.) So my advice is to be prepared for those tricky conversations, they may come up sooner than you think, or in a totally unexpected context!
ReplyDeleteas in most life scenarios, finally coming out and saying it usually shows that you were overthinking the situation all along :P
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It is certainly not easy to be a parent, especially tackling those tough “first” conversations with my kids. But the best way I prefer is openness and be honest and straight forward. That’s the way I preferred to be treated, so, I’ll do the same with my kids.
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I think it's just plain best to be honest.
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I think if you have a good relationship with your kids as they're growing up, all important conversations will come much more naturally.
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Being honest and being a good listener helps.
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Be honest and realistic are best tips from my experience.
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be patient and understanding. Share with them a personal childhood/teenage memory of your own!
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My daughter is too young. I'm going to teach her just be herself and honest
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just try to be open and honest about everything so it doesn't feel awkward or embarassing....instead it is just part of life.
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My mom starts with sharing her own experience, it's always fun to hear her stories. Regarding shaving though we never had the conversation, my mom still doesn't shave o_o Thanks for the review and giveaway.
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things like shaving are simply a fact of life - just be open and honest - sharing a mother -daughter day helps too!
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my daughter is still a baby so I haven't had to have any "talks" with her yet
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I don't have kids, but as a child I appreciated Mom being honest and available
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Yes, shaving is one of the easier conversations. My girls had been watching me and knew the basics when they finally got around to asking. They weren't in any rush being quite blonde and the hair wasn't at all noticeable. Now conversations about sex and periods were much more difficult but I tried to keep them part of ordinary conversation instead of making the extra important.
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I love your post. I remember when my youngest was around 9 or 10 she came home one day and very seriously told me we had to "talk". She made her older sister leave the room and sat down and said. "Mom I need a room of my own and I need it now!" Well we lived in a 3 rm apt(Single mom here) and I told her that before I called for lumber and nails to build her a room I needed to know why it was suddenly so important. She told me , "Well its like this, my teacher says I am going through "POOBERTY" (puberty) and I need a room to do it in." I had to leave the room and collect myself before we could sit down and have that talk. Once we had our talk she looked at me and said Geez mom I thought it was some kind of big deal. Since that day and even now we talk about EVERYTHING and she is in her 30's.
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Don’t be afraid to tell them you don’t know something, but be prepared to find the correct answer
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ReplyDeleteMy best tip is to approach the conversation and answer only the questions your child has at the time - don't overwhelm them with information they may not be ready to deal with.
ReplyDeleteSkip the judgement and the fear talks and just be honest and open. If your kids come to you with questions, be thankful and ANSWER THEM FULLY!! They could be going to another kid and getting all sorts of misinformation! Don't treat them like they are too young to know...they are asking you...they are old enough to know!
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